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Courtesy

So many times all of us have problems that divert our attention to the wonderful things around us. With that thought in mind I decided to make a little log on all the good things that happen to me each day. It is much better for my entire outlook on life to dwell on the positive. My mood is higher. I feel better. I can look at a bottle of wine or soda and see that I still have half a bottle left to enjoy. I can control the TV and shut it off if I dislike it. I can drive down the street and let the other driver race ahead. Today I reached a red light. When the green came on I let another driver enter the lane I was in. He waved at me in a gesture of thanks. It is a little thing for me to do. Yet the other driver was thankful. Just a moment in time for me to be thankful and to extend a little kindness to a stranger. The pay back is when that driver extends a courtesy to others.

Even while men teach, they learn. Seneca, statesman.

I think I gain the most in imparting information to a student. Strange how that works. Charlie
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3/14/2001 2:46 AM

Dominic Hatchuel (4861) wrote:

100% Charlie. Right on. In South Africa, we live in a climate of violent crime. (Not all the time, but nonetheless, I spend more time thinking about getting hijacked than my uncle who lives in Auckland, NZ). But this morning, I drove to work with my windows open, radio blaring, at a leisurely pace, not worried about who got to the next traffic light before me. Seems that the more uptight I get, the more uptight I get. The more I relax, the more I relax.

I'm not a Christian, but this morning I thanked whoever was listening for a couple of things. I thanked him/her/it for my neice who was born with a hole in her heart, and who's doing so well. For my wife, my insatiable thirst for knowledge, my life, my fingers, my guitars, my house, my job, all sorts of things, just took a second out to take a look at how hard done by I'm not. We should all try it once or twice a month. Maybe more often...

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3/14/2001 9:07 AM

Antonio Rosa (6847) wrote:

Nice thought,Charlie.
Antonio

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3/14/2001 9:56 AM

Tim Floto (6151) wrote:

Charlie,
A good reminder, well said.
Tim

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3/14/2001 10:01 AM

Chuck Stensrud (13014) wrote:

Wise words, Charlie.

And it's good for our physical well-being as well. These things are wonderful for helping relieve much of the stress in our lives, strengthening our immune system, lowering blood pressure, and more.

It would be a better world if we all did this regularly!

%chuck%



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3/14/2001 10:16 AM

Shane Roe (9823) wrote:

I've found that the things I have no power to change, . . . well, why worry about them? I can't help it if the guy next to me on the highway had a bad day, I shouldn't let it ruin mine. I like to look on the positive, always, but sometimes it's easier said than done.

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3/14/2001 12:09 PM

Paul Stelzmann (340) wrote:

This is a great reminder of how embracing the path of simplicity, humility, and graciousness leads us to contentment. In this American society, many people seem to be obsessed with upward mobility and constantly worrying about money; I have to sit back and ask myself, "Why?" It's ludicrous and demoralizing to devote one's finite life to the pursuit of currency...(after all, it only has 'worth' because the US Treasury says so and every believes it; the absolute truth is that its only green paper, folks).
I find that the real satisfaction in my life comes from showing appreciation and gratitude to my lovely wife, and spending quality interaction time with my daughter. In addition are the simple joys of reading a 50 cent used paperback book or feeling the vibrant, therapeutic effect of my fingertips pressing down strings to a fretboard.

The interesting thing is that I was just recently reminded of how much I appreciated these things in my life after getting into a conflict with a neighbor. Without getting into details, suffice it to say that I was calm and civil during the conflict and this woman escalated it by being downright belligerent. It really unnerved me for about a day. Then I decide not to allow myself to get tangled up emotionally with a person who is obviously mentally disturbed; she's a divorced woman (surprise) with two teenage kids to whom she is verbally abusive. She is obviously miserable with her life; I will not allow her to take me there. I do not believe that reaching out to her would be a good idea...sort of like wading into a hottub full of pirhannas. Therefore, I will just write her out of the script and not communicate with her at all. Its just that simple.



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3/14/2001 3:30 PM

Charles Gacsi (42523) wrote:

Dear Paul,
I had a neighbor who just went out of his way to do things to create problems. I once confronted him but nothing happened except a little frustration on my part. Then one day he was working on his car. He had started to drop the transmission on his car and the fluid was starting to run down the new concrete driveway his mother had just installed and paid a lot of money in the process. I saw the problem and asked him if he would like some cat litter, the same stuff as they use in a garage (grease sweep). I brought what I had to him and he made a little dam to keep the fluid off of the rest of the driveway. That little act I did, change the relationship between the two of us completely, more than anything else I could have done.

That reminds me of a childrens story about the sun and the wind. They had an argument on what they could do. The wind said "I can make him unsteady and take his hat. Look how he hugs his coat". The sun said nothing but shone brightly and the man took off his coat. Gentle strength and suggestion." Charlie

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3/14/2001 6:51 PM

Chester Horton (10480) wrote:

Hi charlie
Interesting that you should write this post. I have been actually having a lot of the same thoughts and changes of attitude in my own life. I have , in the past, been a very volatile person at times. My feelings also run very high about a lot of things. I am learning (through studing the bible I might add) that I must take the best part of my make-up and develop these things while slowly letting the other parts die. I have found after being guilty of road rage to the point where my daughter and wife rib me about it all the time, that it is a very pleasant feeling to give someone "your" place, or to slow down and let a slow older driver take their time instead of driving too close to "rattle" them on purpose.
I have also found it amazing how true simple little sayings from the bible can be and how well they work such as "a soft answer turns away wrath , a harsh word stirs up strife" Over the last year my life has become much simpler and much more enjoyable. Charlie your title is "courtesy" and I think if we all would practice just a little of this each day, what a better world it would be. GOOD POST my friend and some great answers or maybe you could call them "additions"
Chet



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3/14/2001 7:00 PM

Anthony Holden (9426) wrote:

Hi Chet -

Just reading your first few lines rekindled an old adage ...

There is more hope for a fool than for a man with a quick temper. Proverbs 29:20


I wasn't aiming that directly at you Chet. But, you did say how amazing little sayings/answers from the Good Book can be so fulfilling.

Anthony



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3/14/2001 7:09 PM

Anthony Holden (9426) wrote:

There I go again - my apologies if taken out of context.

Upon reviewing my last reply, I noticed how I typed in the word 'But'.

It's funny how a 3-letter word can through off the intended meaning.

I was basically lauding Chet for realizing about his volatile behaviour.

Once again, apologies for any misunderstanding.

Ant



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3/15/2001 12:11 AM

Chester Horton (10480) wrote:

Thanks Ant
Nothing that you write from that book will insult or put me off. If the shoe fits, I'll wear it and if not , no harm no foul. I like this quote and will keep it for my own from now on.
Chet

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